Let us use the example of Obsessive Controlling to illustrate the Twelve Nidanas of dependent origination:
1. Ignorance (avijja): The person lacks understanding of the true nature of reality and the need to relinquish control.
2. Mental formations (sankhara): Due to ignorance, the person forms habitual patterns of wanting to control every aspect of their life and those around them, leading to an obsessive need for control.
3. Consciousness (viññana): The persons consciousness is conditioned by these mental formations, making them prone to experiencing an obsession with control.
4. Name and form (nama-rupa): The persons body and mind manifest in a way that is susceptible to an obsessive need for control.
5. The six sense bases (salayatana): The persons sense organs interact with the external world, fueling their need for control.
6. Contact (phassa): The person encounters a situation that they perceive as uncontrollable, such as a failed project or a difficult relationship, triggering their obsession with control.
7. Feeling (vedana): The person experiences an unpleasant feeling when they perceive a lack of control in certain situations, reinforcing their craving for control.
8. Craving (tanha): The person develops a strong desire to control the situation and alleviate their suffering.
9. Clinging (upadana): The persons attachment to control intensifies, leading to further entanglement in the cycle of control.
10. Becoming (bhava): This clinging to control reinforces the persons habitual patterns and karmic tendencies, perpetuating the cycle of control.
11. Birth (jati): The persons obsession with control manifests in the form of controlling behavior, further reinforcing the cycle of mental formations and karmic consequences.
12. Old age and death (jara-marana): The persons obsessive control, if left unaddressed, can lead to physical, mental, and emotional suffering, perpetuating negative consequences in future situations or even future lives.
In this example, we can see how the Twelve Nidanas apply to the arising and perpetuation of obsession with control. By understanding the dependent origination of this pattern and recognizing the interdependence of the Twelve Links, a person can cultivate mindfulness and work towards relinquishing control, ultimately leading to greater peace and freedom from suffering.

How to break cycle at each point:

Breaking the cycle of obsessive controlling can involve developing mindfulness and skillful means to let go of the need for control. Here is one way to break the cycle at each point of the Twelve Nidanas of dependent origination:

1. Ignorance - Developing an understanding of the impermanent and interconnected nature of things can help to reduce the belief that control is necessary to avoid suffering. This can involve studying Buddhist teachings on interdependence and impermanence, and practicing mindfulness meditation to cultivate awareness of the present moment.

2. Mental formations - By being aware of habitual patterns of control and recognizing that they are rooted in ignorance, a person can begin to let go of them. Practicing mindfulness meditation can help to break habitual patterns of thinking and behavior.

3. Consciousness - By cultivating mindfulness and introspective awareness, a person can become more aware of the conditioning that shapes their consciousness. This can help them to recognize any unwholesome patterns and work towards breaking them.

4. Name and form - A person can work on reducing attachment to the body and mind, recognizing that these are impermanent and subject to change. Mindfulness meditation can help to cultivate an awareness of the transient nature of physical and mental phenomena.

5. The six sense bases - Practicing restraint of the senses can help a person to become less reactive to sensory experiences and reduce the potential for obsession with control. By being mindful of the senses and their input, a person can develop a healthier relationship with sensory experiences and reduce attachment and craving.

6. Contact - By practicing mindfulness and recognizing the impermanent and interdependent nature of things, a person can develop a clearer understanding of the causes and conditions that led to a situation. This understanding can help them to respond skillfully and let go of the need for control.

7. Feeling - Developing mindfulness of feelings, and recognizing their impermanence, can help a person to become less reactive and let go of the need for control. By developing an awareness of the inherently unsatisfactory nature of sensory pleasures, a person can reduce attachment and craving.

8. Craving - By practicing mindfulness and developing an understanding of the root causes of suffering, a person can reduce the craving for control. They can work on developing compassion and equanimity, recognizing that all things are impermanent and interdependent.

9. Clinging - By being aware of the patterns of clinging, a person can learn to recognize them and let go of them. Mindfulness and the practice of non-attachment can help a person to let go of the need for control and reduce attachment.

10. Becoming - By recognizing the impermanent and unsatisfactory nature of all conditioned phenomena, a person can reduce the tendency towards becoming and let go of the need for control. Cultivating a sense of impermanence and non-self can help to reduce attachment and craving.

11. Birth - By recognizing the habit of controlling behavior and working to let go of it, a person can reduce the tendencies towards further karmic consequences. Practicing mindfulness and developing a sense of detachment and equanimity can help to reduce the tendency towards controlling behavior.

12. Old age and death - By practicing mindfulness and letting go of the need for control, a person can reduce the suffering that is caused by obsessive controlling. They can recognize the impermanence of all things and work towards letting go of attachment, leading to greater freedom and peace.