Lets use the example of relational aggression to illustrate the Twelve Nidanas of dependent origination.
1. Ignorance (avijja): The individual lacks understanding of the true nature of reality and the interdependence of all phenomena. They do not fully comprehend the impact of their actions on others.
2. Mental formations (sankhara): Due to ignorance, the individual forms habitual patterns of using relational aggression as a means of social control or to cope with feelings of inadequacy.
3. Consciousness (viññana): The individuals consciousness is conditioned by these mental formations, leading them to perceive the world through the lens of relational aggression.
4. Name and form (nama-rupa): The individuals body and mind manifest in a way that is susceptible to engaging in relational aggression as a means of social control or to cope with difficult emotions.
5. The six sense bases (salayatana): The individuals sense organs interact with the external world, leading them to perceive and interpret social situations through the lens of relational aggression.
6. Contact (phassa): The individual encounters situations where they perceive a social threat or feel the need to assert their dominance or control through relational aggression.
7. Feeling (vedana): The individual experiences a sense of empowerment or relief by exerting control over others through relational aggression.
8. Craving (tanha): The individual develops a strong desire for continued control, leading them to engage in further relational aggression as a means of achieving their desired social outcome.
9. Clinging (upadana): The individuals attachment to their status and sense of control intensifies, leading them to cling to their pattern of relational aggression even when it causes harm to others or themselves.
10. Becoming (bhava): This clinging to relational aggression reinforces the individuals habitual patterns and karmic tendencies, perpetuating the cycle of relational aggression and control.
11. Birth (jati): The individuals pattern of relation aggression manifests in the form of social manipulation, bullying, or ostracism, reinforcing their cycle of mental formations, karmic consequences, and social positioning.
12. Old age and death (jara-marana): Unaddressed relational aggression can lead to physical, mental, and emotional suffering and perpetuate negative social consequences in future situations or even future lives.

In this example, we can see how the Twelve Nidanas apply to the arising and perpetuation of relational aggression. By understanding the dependent origination of relational aggression and recognizing the interdependence of the Twelve Links, individuals can cultivate greater awareness of their thoughts and behaviors, compassion towards others, and work towards breaking the cycle of hurtful relational patterns.

How to break cycle at each point:

Here are some ways to break the cycle of dependent origination at each point in the context of relational aggression:

1. Ignorance (avijja): Cultivate mindfulness meditation to gain a deeper understanding of the nature of reality and the interconnectedness of all phenomena. This can help broaden ones perspective and reduce distorted thinking and perception.

2. Mental formations (sankhara): Recognize the habitual patterns of using relational aggression and work on developing more adaptive coping strategies. This can involve behavioral therapy, cognitive restructuring or other techniques aimed at modifying these habitual patterns.

3. Consciousness (viññana): Recognize how habitual thoughts and biases can distort perceptions and develop greater awareness of these patterns. This can be achieved through meditation, cognitive restructuring or other techniques.

4. Name and form (nama-rupa): Pay attention to the mind and body and work on regulating emotional states. This can include developing greater self-awareness, relaxation techniques or stress reduction methods.

5. The six sense bases (salayatana): Practice mindfulness to develop a more objective view of reality and reduce the tendency to interpret or react based on distorted perceptions. This can involve using mindfulness meditation techniques or mindfulness in daily life.

6. Contact (phassa): Be aware of situations that trigger relational aggression and develop alternative strategies for managing these situations. This can involve skill building in assertiveness or emotional regulation.

7. Feeling (vedana): Be aware of the emotional reactions that arise from interactions with others and work on cultivating greater emotional resilience. This can involve developing coping skills, improving emotional regulation or working with a therapist.

8. Craving (tanha): Practice letting go of the attachment to power and control and focus more on the present moment. This can involve practicing mindfulness meditation, developing gratitude practices or developing a new sense of purpose in life.

9. Clinging (upadana): Work on loosening the grip of rigid patterns of thinking and behavior by engaging in cognitive restructuring or other techniques that help to interrupt habitual patterns.

10. Becoming (bhava): Focus on developing new positive patterns of thought and behavior by engaging in self-help, social support, or other techniques that promote growth and positive change.

11. Birth (jati): Practice assertiveness, empathy, and other communication skills aimed at building positive relationships with others.

12. Old age and death (jara-marana): Focus on cultivating inner peace and reducing external stressors that can exacerbate negative emotional and behavioral patterns. This can include working with a therapist or engaging in self-help practices that promote emotional health and well-being.

In summary, breaking the cycle of dependent origination requires a combination of mindfulness, awareness of habitual patterns, and developing new positive patterns of thought and behavior. This process can be facilitated through self-help, social support, and other techniques aimed at promoting positive change and long-term growth.