Lets use the example of stonewalling in a relationship to illustrate the Twelve Nidanas of dependent origination.
1. Ignorance (avijja): The person lacks understanding of the true nature of reality, including the importance of healthy communication in relationships.
2. Mental formations (sankhara): Due to ignorance, the person forms habitual patterns of shutting down emotionally and refusing to engage in communication during conflicts.
3. Consciousness (viññana): The persons consciousness is conditioned by these mental formations, making them prone to stonewalling as a default response to conflict.
4. Name and form (nama-rupa): The persons body and mind (psychophysical constituents) manifest in a way that is susceptible to stonewalling during conflicts.
5. The six sense bases (salayatana): The persons sense organs (sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch, and mind) interact with their partner and the external world during conflicts.
6. Contact (phassa): The person encounters a situation (e.g., an argument with their partner) that triggers the impulse to shut down emotionally and withdraw.
7. Feeling (vedana): The person experiences an unpleasant feeling as a result of the conflict, leading to the desire to avoid the situation altogether.
8. Craving (tanha): The person craves relief from the unpleasant feeling and the desire to end the conflict without further engagement.
9. Clinging (upadana): The persons attachment to stonewalling intensifies, reinforcing the cycle of avoidance in future conflicts.
10. Becoming (bhava): This clinging to avoidance reinforces the persons habitual patterns and karmic tendencies, perpetuating the cycle of stonewalling.
11. Birth (jati): The persons stonewalling manifests in the form of a lack of emotional responsiveness or communication during conflicts, perpetuating further conflicts and misunderstandings.
12. Old age and death (jara-marana): Unaddressed stonewalling can lead to dysfunction and the eventual breakdown of the relationship, further perpetuating future conflicts and suffering.
This example illustrates how the Twelve Nidanas apply to the arising and perpetuation of stonewalling. By recognizing the interdependence of the Twelve Links, a person can cultivate awareness of their own patterns and work towards a more constructive approach to communication and conflict resolution in their relationships, ultimately leading to less suffering for all involved.

How to break cycle at each point:

To break the cycle of stonewalling in a relationship at each point of the Twelve Nidanas of dependent origination, one could take the following steps:

1. Ignorance (avijja): Educate yourself on healthy communication patterns in relationships, become aware of how stonewalling affects your partner and relationship, and develop an understanding of the root causes and consequences of stonewalling.

2. Mental formations (sankhara): Recognize your habitual patterns of shutting down emotionally during conflicts and actively work towards breaking those patterns by developing new habits and behaviors.

3. Consciousness (viññana): Cultivate awareness of your reactions and emotional responses during conflicts. By becoming more conscious of your own patterns of stonewalling, you can start to take steps to address them.

4. Name and form (nama-rupa): Explore the origins of your stonewalling behavior, including past experiences and conditioning. By understanding the root causes of your patterns, you can gain more control over your reactions.

5. The six sense bases (salayatana): Practice mindfulness of your interactions with your partner and the external world during conflicts. By becoming aware of your triggers and reactions, you can start to disengage from unhelpful patterns.

6. Contact (phassa): Learn to recognize the impulse to withdraw emotionally and engage in stonewalling behavior. By noticing this impulse, you can start to take steps to interrupt the cycle.

7. Feeling (vedana): Acknowledge and accept difficult emotions that arise during conflicts. By allowing yourself to experience and process emotions, you can avoid the impulse to avoid them through stonewalling.

8. Craving (tanha): Intentionally choose responses that are more constructive than stonewalling, even if they require more effort and vulnerability. This can help reduce the craving for the relief that stonewalling provides.

9. Clinging (upadana): Practice letting go of the attachment to stonewalling as a coping mechanism. Visualization, journaling, or therapy can be helpful in developing this skill.

10. Becoming (bhava): Cultivate healthy communication habits and behaviors, in order to reinforce the positive aspects of past patterns and reduce the karmic tendencies of stonewalling.

11. Birth (jati): Increase emotional responsiveness and engage in communication during conflicts, even if it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.

12. Old age and death (jara-marana): Develop long-term communication patterns that limit the need for stonewalling, preventing future conflicts and reducing the likelihood of relationship breakdown.

In summary, breaking the cycle of stonewalling in a relationship involves cultivating mindfulness and awareness, actively working to address negative patterns, and intentionally choosing more constructive responses to conflict. This practice can ultimately reduce suffering for all involved and improve the quality of the relationship.